Understand that drinking socially can lead to a server problem. There is a moment we recognize that our well-being hits rock bottom because social drinking often becomes heavy drinking.
No matter what, we are still longing for drinks at a marriage, a company event, at a club, etc.
You should realize that acknowledging that you have a drinking problem may not be easy.
We are not in for the AA's mind washing treatment programs because we do not consider ourselves as alcohol abusers.
At this stage, the most important factor to control the drinking is to accept our weakness.
Moving forward is much easier after we admit to ourselves that we need to change.
One quote that you should never forget at any given moment is:
"The next drink will always come." The chance to hang out with a cold bottle of beer will always present itself. Being aware of this is vital. The idea here is to significantly reduce how much we drink, not to stop drinking entirely and never have another drink in our lives. If we remember that there will always be another chance to have a drink at some other point, things will seem a lot easier.
You could be hard at work on a particular Tuesday for instance. Having a scotch once back in the house is an obsessive thought. But, what is the meaning to actually having a drink on a Tuesday evening? Could you instead not concentrate on being a father, husband and good friend; one who does not drink on this particular evening. Is having that particular drink really necessary? What if you had that drink on Wednesday instead when you're sure to be at the bar watching a game? Won't it be better for you to even leave Tuesday and Wednesday out of it, and watch that game on Thursday? Leaving out the next few days and scheduling the drink for the weekend will even make it feel better, because the drink will always be there.
It is important for you to create some diversions if you are looking forward to cutting back on drinking.
You should engage in another activity to keep you occupied when you have decided not to go out and drink.
It may sound too simple to be true, but can you think of a better way to ease yourself away from the drinking? Functional alcoholics among those of us who overindulge are many.
We normally do not drink when at work. So, who doesn't see how simple it is? Find a small, part time job on the side. The good thing about this is that you'll find a distraction from drinking and you'll also be doing something that may bring in some extra money.
Feeling hangover is not unusual for people who drink excessively. Feeling awful, and waiting for that next chance to drink again so we can feel better. We feel fantastic on those sporadic days we hadn't a drink the night before. Invigorated. Before sipping the first beer of the night, try to remember how you felt on the morning when alcohol wasn't in your body. You felt amazing. Make this your high.
Consider the quality of life the live. Collect any of the periodicals and enjoy the tales of families enjoying their break at the beach. Hear the tales of the outing enjoyed by your brother's family without alcohol by calling them. Understand that alcohol is not the centre of the world.
You may not have kids but you can still imagine what life would be like if, in your present condition, you had kids. Being the best examples and encouragement to the people around us is the greatest duty we have as parents. So, if we're drinking all the time, are we? Ask yourself whether or not your parents used to drink heavily? Some of us will definitely answer in the negative, and therefore, we need to ponder why we are dependent on alcohol. For some others, yes, is that the type of embarrassment we want to mete to our kids? Embarrassment. That's the most important word in this context. Recollect that particular moment when our first child entered our lives?
The love of that kid will make us do anything.The shame that our alcohol addiction may cause these kids should be considered. Consider how consuming alcohol excessively could possibly make us inattentive parents and cause an accident leading to injuries or even worse for the children or the child.
As alcohol addicts, it is ours to choose. Do we want to reach a point where the only way out is to go through the rehabilitation process, or do we want to learn how to control our urges before it's too late? You must be reasoning about self-limitation if you are going through these lines. We can still have our self-respect and at the same time have the chance to recovering our lives. Moving around and shouting "I'm an alcoholic and I'm sixty days sober," shouldn't be our case. Before we go into full time addiction, the power to curtail our drinking is still in our hands. The main reason why alcoholics fail to seek for assistance is the notion that they will not get to take alcohol again in their lives, but this is made easier with the ideas above. This is not part of the deal if you follow my program. The movement is from being addicted to alcohol, to enjoying alcohol as an extra, so there are no difficulties involved.